Ok, well I found a crib and dresser that I feel confident will hold up over the years. Its made by Young America (made by Stanley) and its solid maple! Its freaking expensive, but I negotiated with DH that instead of the crib+dresser+change table that I would just get the crib and dresser and this way it still fits into our budget. The dresser is big enough I can put a pad on that and change him there. Kyle's room isnt very big, so I dont mind not cramming in the extra piece of furniture. The change table is only 4 drawers, and Im not prone to changing babies on their tables every time anyway!