And Ben is now a proud owner of a brand new dad! : )

The whole thing was literally 10 mintues- our lawyer asked DH to confirm that we had A's consent papers (judge had them already, but it was part of the decree), that he could financially support Ben, and that he wanted to adopt Ben. The judge asked Ben if he wanted to be adopted and Ben paused (I almost had a heart attack) and yelled "of course!!"

The judge said he felt it was in Ben's best insterest for DH to adopt him and that he was approving the adoption request. I cried, and DH's mom got teary-eyed (his parents came- theyre here for Christmas but leave tomorrow).

I almost cried a lot more- Ben has been waiting for a dad his whole life. Immediately after Ben hugged DH and said "I love you dad!". (Im welling up now remembering it). Ben is thrilled :)

almost 22 week belly

21w+5d

So baby is in perfect health as far as they could see. They initially told us that its a girl- she was SURE it was a girl and 5 minutes later she said "Oh... I'm mistaken. Its very clearly a boy- he was just tucked up. Thats only happened to me one other time..." I said are you SURE its a boy, and she said yes absolutely. Another Dr came to check over her findings (standard practice) and did a second ultrasound and she checked and said yes, absolutely a boy. Then my Dr looked at the pics, and agreed. The girl pic was just a funny angle looking up at the scrotum, and it looked like a vag til she took a different angle. Boy it is!

DH tried to hide his disappointment- he clearly wanted a girl, but said he was happy with a boy and is of course thrilled the baby looks healthy

Some of you may remember me writing a while back about my husband adopting Ben, I though I would update.

The long and the short of it is that we're waiting on the new set of adoption consent forms to be sent back by A (Ben's biofather). I've talked to him a few times, and the last time he wrote he said that he was "suddenly between jobs" but wouldn't make us wait on the forms. That was on the 10th of November. 2 weeks later I wrote him to let him know we appreciated him doing it asap, that we had a submission date for the forms, and that knowing he was between jobs that I would happily send him funds to cover the notary fee and cost to send it to our lawyer. I don't think he's had computer access since before I sent him that message... he was happy to sign the forms and our communications have been amicable, I dont believe he is bailing on it...

Our court date is set for the 29th - my in laws are in town then, so I'm REALLY hoping that we get the forms by then.

A few things can happen:
1) we get the new forms, and everything is ready to go for the 29th.
2) if we dont get the forms back, the lawyer is going to call the court and see if our 4 year old provincial forms are good enough- A signed forms 4 years ago, but the lawyer doesnt know if such old and out of country forms will be acceptable). If they're not, we cancel the court date and go from there (either wait for A to sign the forms, or do the standard 3 week newspaper publication to have him contact our lawyer- and if he doesnt- we do the adoption without new forms)
3) The provincial forms are good enough, and we do the adoption the 29th.

Our lawyer is in Korea this week adopting a child, so the forms *might* be sitting at her office waiting for us. I wont know until next week though when she gets back! The waiting is hard...

The next 2 weeks are going to be busy! Good busy, but busy. Tomorrow my inlaws get into town, Monday is our ultrasound, Thursday is Christmas, Monday will hopefully be Ben's adoption, and then Tuesday the in laws go back. :)

Anyway thats where we're at- please keep your fingers crossed for us that the forms come!!

almost 20 weeks

I bought some baby stuff  7 more full days til we have our ultrasound, but I figure it doesnt hurt to buy the gender neutral stuff- which I figure will be just about everything since I want to use it a second time for baby #3 

I bought our car seat and stroller! I am SO excited about this- I woke up DH and said "I found the stoller an carseat I picked and its like 200$ off with free shipping! Can I buy it?" and he asked me how much it was, and I told him I was $380 but was down from $560, and he grumbled "I guess" so I ran off and ordered it before he woke up fully  Its Britax, and I love it because the stroller has an adjustable handle bar- I'm tall and my last stroller was too short for me. 

I also bought a pack of 2 organic bassinet waterproof pads- they were on sale for $20 for both so it seemed like a good deal. 

I also picked out this bassinet- thoughts on this one? Im not a fan of the look of it, but it vibrates, has music, a nightlight, converts to a bedside sleeper, the its rocks, has an optional incline (I think this is awesome), and the cradel part comes off so you can take it with you. Link is below the pics. 

http://www.amazon.com/First-Years-Ca...9278997&sr=1-1

And I picked this ring sling - also open to thoughts on it... I have used a sling in years and the one I used was handmade. (link below image)

http://www.albeebaby.com/balboa-baby...ack-white.html

I'm 20 weeks tomorrow, and getting excited to get ready for this little one. I told myself I wouldnt buy anything until 25 weeks or at least until after our anatomy scan... but I'm excited and cant help it 

19 weeks

Hi all,
DH and I went to his work Christmas party on Saturday- I totally over did it and felt like crap all day yesterday. We walked a ton (and I was in heels!) and stayed up late, but we had a good time! I got the dress on clearance for 20$ from a maternity store- I figured if I never wear it again its ok! The sales woman helped me find the black sweater to go with it since I'm fashion illiterate, and I'll wear the sweater a lot.

Other then that I'm just counting the days until our next ultrasound (2 weeks today!). If I think about the anatomy scan part I get worried that there will be something wrong, so Im trying to just be excited to find out what sex the baby is. I feel him/her moving every day now and am losing my center of gravity- I know s/he is growing and I cant bear the though of there being something wrong... so Im just thinking of the shopping I'll do for our new little lady or gentleman once we know. 

I'm still throwing up every few days, but its nothing like 3 weeks ago so I'm thrilled with that!  

Cheers.